With this in mind, de-stressing can be facilitated by writing a different holiday list: the things we appreciate and the things we used to appreciate. We would then change our perception: Is the cup half full or half empty?

Remember the traffic gets crazier. Ignore people. Road rage is crazy enough as it is. Keep your emotions in check. Breathe. The Holidays go one of two ways: People are either cheery and pleasant or miserable and moody. I prefer to be pleasant all year round. It gets crazy. Don’t get sucked into the madness. Get real about the season.

Take time each day to relax, give yourself peace. Maybe volunteering for Holiday events would help you get a better perspective. If you volunteered at a food kitchen it keeps things honest and real. (I do feel this we should all know this is an all year event that people need help).

Smile regardless of the rude, cranky people. Emotions can run high. We miss our loved ones. We wish we had a partner; things may not be so good financially, etc. Count your blessings. When you check into what other people are lacking it certainly helps us feel blessed.

Exercise. That relieves stress, helps build endorphins. Eat well. Try going organic. Veggies are good. This time of year there is always a box of chocolate or cookies hanging around. Try stepping away from the junk and maybe grabbing a pear. It will do your body good.

Keep things in check. Take one day at a time. Enjoy the season for the right reasons not the silly gifts or parties. Keeping things simple is one of the best ways to enjoy every day.

Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays and a very Happy New Year to all.

 Lots of Love.

Michelle

http://www.michellecaporale.com

Anyone remember the Sandra Bullock movie “While you were sleeping”? Oldie but goodie. She saves the life of a man from getting hit by a train and manages to get involved with his family because of her heroic actions. But while this man is in a coma in the hospital everyone seems to think she is his fiance. From that point on the story goes forward and while he is “sleeping” her life begins. She doesn’t see all what is front of her because she is focused on the man she saved in the movie whom she always had a crush on but he never noticed her.

So, what happens to us when we are so intent and focused on someone who barely notices us or pulls away from us? Do we ever stop to see that perhaps there is someone else waiting in the wings or maybe even come to us at another time? Because we are so wrapped up with the present person we tend not to look what is in sight or even what the future may bring.
My Grandfather used to tell me; “You before him, you will survive after him”. Ah but the heartache. How that distorts the positive thoughts and the mere idea of looking to the future at the possibility of opening ourselves up again for more hurt or a good relationship. Which will it be? Who wants to go through that again? None of us.

Just like the movie, while we were sleeping, not hoping or perhaps not noticing things do have a way of working themselves out. We do recover in time,we do find new love that gives new hope to an old heart.
Try to only take small naps so you don’t miss the grand event. Want to know who and when? Just ask me. I look forward to reading for you.

Michelle

http://www.michellecaporale.com

Who are these people, where are these people? I will never find them, never get to speak my peace or bring them to justice. The anger comes to a boil each time I think of the abuse. I see too much abuse in this world towards animals. It needs to stop!

Kellie’s aggressive behavior brought her to the point in which her owner felt he had to put her down after she could no longer be trusted with others. She was always on watch, ready to jump and would bite. I loved her, she was sweet to me and I trusted her with my life. If I could have made her know that she did not have to be afraid and life would be good for her that would have been my wish. She did not deserve her start nor her finish. It was all due to the abusive behavior of others.

I have struggled in my heart with the what if’s and why did he put her down without some kind of behavioral therapy first? Why didn’t anyone listen? Why didn’t the rescue that she was adopted from know of this, or did they? Too many things go through your mind when you are in pain and second guessing. I blame many people. I blame myself too. I played a small part in her life and loved her. I could see her aggression and I tried to help her. Now it’s over. No one would want to see a child mauled or anyone harmed. It still does not take away the pain or the injustice. One thing is for certain Kellie is no longer frightened, aggressive, angry or struggling with the demons of abusive people who had her first. She is in a peaceful home with others and her Creator. One day I will see her again.

She has left a scar on my heart that will always remain. I honor her this way by letting the world know a German Shepherd named Kellie existed. She is beautiful in spirit and body. She has a soul that is bright and loving. She was given a rotten start in which she did not deserve. She was playful, goofy and very snuggly. Kellie pranced when she walked quickly and liked to step up on you while licking your face. She loved toys and jerky treats. She liked the garbage pail too. She had a deep bark with her pointy ears up and meant business if anyone tried to harm those she loved. She is love. Whomever did not get to know her is unfortunate. They lost out. Whomever is making excuses for her behavior that doesn’t understand is an idiot. They lost out and me personally will honor, cherish and preserve her memory in more ways than one.

Kellie- I love you. Xo

For all those that do not respect life of any kind, your time will come.

For all those that do, God Bless you.

“Please do not shop, ADOPT”.

I managed my families bills for years and saved what I could. I paid and thank God have still been paying my mortgage. I will not go out to dinner or take fancy trips. I shop and recycle at Goodwill. I donate my efforts to special things like animals and sick children. I am not extravagant. I conserve energy and I care greatly about the environment and mankind. I do not make a lot of money but what I do make I am cautious with. So if I can manage this on very little why can’t Congress? I was never interested in politics, until now. I am horrible at math but I can use a calculator and when I do the numbers it can be fixed. It is my opinion that we have created a society of “brats”. No one seems to appreciate a home cooked meal, naturally grown food.  (No pesticides, there are other methods) Not many people know what a hard days work is. Breaking your ass won’t kill you. It makes you stronger and in touch with your planet. My Father broke his to support his family.

Stop bailing out big business. Stop sending jobs overseas. You therefore raise unemployment rates here. We have enough resources that we can use in the U.S. that we can have fair trade. We are so busy trying to hoard all the money that we lose sight of what is here. Stop the wars! Yup, I am a female and I do not want to see innocent people killed no matter what faith or color you are. It costs money to fund a war. Then again, I can go right back to greed. Where have our values gone? What the hell are we teaching our kids?

It’s nice to have nice things but easier and affordable to go back to the basics. What is really essential? Stop leaving God out of things, no matter what you label it as or whom. I feel you are up you know what without a paddle when you start diminishing  God and a faith-based system that practices LOVE, not hate and greed. Equality for all. No special ones. All are equal and go back to the basics. You can run a household, you can run a budget.

Next.. Lately my Intuition has been at an all time peak. I am feeling off, strange about our world. When things are ready to happen animals are so in tune they re-act. I have been watching the alignments with this so-called Comet Elenin and doing much research.  Probably too much. I am not certain as to what will happen. ( I will let you be the judge from your own research).

However, I intuitively feel something is off and a change is coming. Whatever that may be can we all collectively lift our vibration so that we can help our planet and one another? Positive thoughts, words, feelings, etc. I believe in doing that we lift the world to a much better place. There is too much hate, let’s make love instead. I want to hold my grandchildren, how about you?

Fear is not a good place to be, it also brings negativity. Let’s work together.

Thoughts?

With Love,

Michelle

Every day whether I want to or not, I hear of an earth change or something horrible happening to someone or something. It seems as if people have lost their minds. Maybe true. It’s rather difficult to raise your vibration have faith and be positive when you hear of such things. It is undeniable we are living in very trying times. The State of the Union is upside down. I try to stay far away from any news. It always affects me. I don’t want to be oblivious or unprepared.

I knew of the earth changes coming years ago. Things and people are different since I was a child. Being a child was easy, those were the days.

Can we fix the budget? Can we stop the changes our planet is making? Can we save the earth, our children and animals? I believe our planet is going through some major changes in order to bring about a new world. It is scary, confusing and though predicted still unpredictable. However, if we raise our vibration and start making changes NOW we can all get through these times a lot easier.  The world needs healing. People need healing. There is too much hatred, abuse and violence. Nations should not be rising against each other.

The “yes” to fixing things comes to me as thoughts and actions.  Here are some things we as a world can do:

Forgive. Yes, forgive every person who did anything to you that was wrong. Let it go. (I know this is easier said than done) Try.

Plant something. We are killing off our trees and vegetation. It’s always a good thing to make oxygen and breathe.

Become a role model to a child or young adult.

Get involved. Volunteer even if it’s 15 minutes a week.

Truly practice random acts of kindness. (Stop perseverating on what you don’t have, think of what you do have) I may not have designer clothes or a home that is decorated with the finer things money can buy but I have clean clothes with a roof over my head. I am simple, not complex. I hope to always have this simple roof over my head and in faith, I will.

Smile at someone. They might think you’re nuts but who cares. Positive helps.

Donate a quarter to a local charity. Who cares how much, it all adds up. Imagine if everyone donated 1.00 to a food cause? We could possibly end world hunger.

Save an animal. If possible you can sponsor, adopt or donate time.

Replace a negative thought or feeling with a positive one. Keep on doing that.

Honor the earth, clean up litter. Bless the ground you walk on and the sky you breathe under. Recycle, please.

Pray! Pray for others, the earth, your family, friends and all you know and have never met. Prayer is not about religion. I care that you pray. I encourage you to walk in faith and not in fear. Fear will hoard all the faith anyone has. Living in fear is crippling. Fear is negative and evil. It can and often does control. I am sorry to say but I believe the powers that be like to instill fear so they can keep us under thumb. As long as you continue to remain attached by virtue of clinging, desire and ego – as long you continue to live in fear – you will see that change or its potential as a bad thing. As soon as you stop, it becomes just a thing – maybe even a no-thing.

Educate yourself. Don’t take the news as the word of God. Take the word of God as the news.

Share, laugh, hug and love. Love is such a powerful force. It can move mountains, change minds and hearts. Be open minded to new people and ideas. Imagine! Try to be in a consistent state of grace.

Granted, this is not so easy to always do. Not impossible. The world needs to be healed so do people. The only way is to start day by day then we can multiply. We raise our vibration high where the planet feels the loving energy. It flows through each one of us carried like a river that eventually will lead out to an entire ocean. That is pretty cool.

Tonight I felt a sense of fear and then I did some things I suggested above. I thought of my children and how I love them. How blessed I am because of them. I spoke to a friend; e mailed another because I deeply care for each of them. I worked, prayed and played with the dog. I looked at the moon and thanked God. I asked for world peace and all nations to learn love and those economic issues will be fixed, jobs will be had. I laughed at a silly show and wrote this blog.

Let peace reside in your heart and pass it on.

Imagine there’s no Heaven
It’s easy if you try
No hell below us
Above us only sky
Imagine all the people
Living for today

Imagine there’s no countries
It isn’t hard to do
Nothing to kill or die for
And no religion too
Imagine all the people
Living life in peace

You may say that I’m a dreamer
But I’m not the only one
I hope someday you’ll join us
And the world will be as one

Imagine no possessions
I wonder if you can
No need for greed or hunger
A brotherhood of man
Imagine all the people
Sharing all the world

You may say that I’m a dreamer
But I’m not the only one
I hope someday you’ll join us
And the world will live as one

-John Lennon

I usually don’t add these things but this was sent to me via e mail and I was hysterical. I hope to share my laugh with everyone.

Words for Women to Live By

  1. Aspire to be Barbie – the b**h has everything.

2. If the shoe fits – buy them in every color.

3. Take life with a pinch of salt… A wedge of lime, and a shot of tequila.

4. In need of a support  group? – Cocktail hour with the girls!

5. Go on the 30 day diet. (I’m on it and so far I’ve lost 15 days).

6. When life gets you down – just put on your big girl panties and deal with it.

7. Let your greatest fear be that there is no PMS and this is just your personality.

8. I know I’m in my own little world, but it’s ok. They know me here.

9. Lead me not into temptation, I can find it myself.

10. Don’t get your knickers in a knot; it solves nothing and makes you walk funny.

11. When life gives you lemons – buy some Coronas.

12. Forget about the perfect man – he’s living in San Fran with his boyfriend.

13. Keep your chin up, only the first 40 years of parenthood are the hardest.

14. If it has tires or testicles it’s gonna give you trouble.

15. By the time a women realizes her mother was right, she has a daughter who thinks she’s wrong.

‘Good friends are like stars… You don’t always see them, but you know  they are always there’
‘Remember yesterday, dream about tomorrow, but live for today’. Now smile and send to any girl wasting time at work, suffering from a hangover, or just suffering from life , they might need a reason to smile!

To my surprise, this is not always the case. No one owes us and not everyone is nice. Just because the world is not always nice does not mean that we cannot be.

However, regardless of what people may do to hurt us I say we continue to live in a humble state of grace, gratitude, sharing with a happy attitude. It lifts the positive energy and you end up sharing L.O.V.E.

A few things to consider while acting in this fashion:

1) You never really know someone else’s cross. They may not even know they are hurting your feelings.

2) If they do know, shame is on them not you. Let them deal with it or not. If you were promised contact then not received it, maybe that person is not able. If they lied or broke a promise again, it is on them.

3) When giving and practicing random acts of kindness we are not supposed to be rewarded with “kudos”. I was always taught to not air my donations or throw up to someone what I may have done for them. I really try not to.

4) When you feel ignored, find something to do so you can feel better.

For the past several years of my personal life I have been feeling left aside due to the fact that in laws and even my own relatives don’t take the time to stop and call or ask how I am. Because they all know of most of my hardships, I feel alone, often resentful of them not doing something. I began to wonder what did I expect them to say or do. Are they even capable? Do they care? Why do I need to care so much? I examined myself carefully. Soul searching is a hard thing but can be rewarding. You’d be surprise what you find. Being a victim emotionally is not much fun. It serves no purpose.

Honestly, does it matter? I suppose my Grandfather would say that it should but life isn’t always so cut and dry. I stopped to think that they have their own set of issues. Maybe I should reach out to them more. See how you can flip this? I can call too! If they don’t respond so what. I don’t know all the issues that are going on with those people so who I am to judge?

Then there are some people that no matter how you try, forgive or reach out they ignore you. You may have even said you were sorry if you did something to upset them or anger them. Okay, what about that? If you are really sorry coming from a loving heartfelt place then that is all there is. Forgiveness is a rough one. To error is human, you know the rest.

We could but shouldn’t live our lives in constant drama and fear. We shouldn’t be judging this one, that one. I miss people, often tried to figure them out. I wondered what part I played, if any.  In the end I can start to see that it matters not. God deals with each of us accordingly. His grace and mercy are suffice. All I can do is expect nothing from no one, live in gratitude and keep a good attitude. I have to gain a better sense of faith.

Being a practicing Intuitive does not make me powerful or crazy. I am human. I have feelings. Maybe I am very emotional and some people cannot handle that. I cannot deal with people who show little to no emotion. I need contact and communication. I love being social. I love loving! I love and hurt deeply. I dislike drama. (I am terrific at creating it but I am choosing not to do that)

Goals: This week I am living in grace, gratitude and love. No matter who says or does what I will not change this course. I will practice every day to be GRATEFUL for all I have and do not have. Often when we don’t have something, it shows us what we DO have. (I challenge you to make some goals)

I will not gripe about the people who have hurt me intentionally or unintentionally. I will send them love because I do love them in spite of anything.

I will be happy and say thank you to the people who are in my life, who do show up and care. I love them as well.

I will take lessons from my dog that is new to my family. Most of you already know my two Shepherds passed away within a 5 week period because of old age. They had fabulous lives but when they passed my heart went with them. Unexpectedly I adopted/rescued this crazy, goofy smaller Shepherd who did not know what a treat was. She would cower to me for no reason, snapped at a family member for whatever her reasons were. She has had a rough start. A few months have gone by and she is playing, expecting treats, enjoying her cool home safe from all the rain. She is loving, sweet and starting to understand its okay. She has no expectations except that she is living in complete gratitude and joy. Her name is Joy. I re-named her for a reason. My other dogs were here since puppies and they never new anything but love. (Coral and Rizz I love and miss you)

Our animals don’t have these egos, they just are. They forgive and could care less who is who. I think I like that attitude. They are also so grateful for love, food, attention and life.

Some things to do to stay grateful: Donate to a local shelter. Even $1.00 matters

Visit a Hospital and spend 5 minutes with someone who is ill.

Watch children play at a playground

Witness a sunrise or sunset

Volunteer for one hour at your local Humane Society

Think of Our Military scattered around the world.

You don’t need money or material things to find grace and blessings.

Look at things with your heart. A close friend of mine once told another friend that if he listened and looked with his heart he would find the right girl. I hope someday he does. If we look with our hearts when can find the attitude of gratitude. Life is about little things. We start with just one thought and action we can then spin off from that. After a while it becomes a healthy mental lifestyle.

If we pray with an open channel, our prayers are sincere. They can make a difference.

I would love to hear back from anyone who has any great suggestions or what you may have tried.

In gratitude,

Michelle

I cannot watch the case. The news rocks me but now and then in the course of the day it pops on the screen of the computer. Then the impressions flow and away I go.

There is a hung jury in the midst here, I hope I am wrong and very well may be. I feel it. The search dogs were not wrong. They have no ego. Her father was stern but not abusive. Her mother figured it out rather quickly and also feared something of this nature would happen. Neither of them could control their daughter even when trying. This woman has a multiple personality disorder. You cannot fix that. No magic pill or wand cures this. What Casey see’s is her innocence. She has no remorse because whatever is lurking inside of her does not know she did this. There had to have been licensed psychiatrists and physcologists see her because that is common sense. I have yet to hear of this and if it was mentioned, I missed it.

Some of what Casey thought could be considered pre-meditated, the rest would not be. There were thoughts that she would have liked to be free of her daughter and the responsibilities that came with parenting. Taking her life was not on the table. Then- I do feel she snapped. Upon snapping is when she decided that it was “okay”. She would send her off to a better home in heaven. Going out on the town was not her way of forgetting the act it simply was a party. “I am free.” Someone else is really taking care of my little girl, this she believed.

If you are hoping she will break and confess, don’t hold your breath. She won’t. Did she pass in the back yard? I believe so. Then it was panic time. Rid the house of the body and evidence. I do feel Casey came to her senses, snapped into realty trying to figure out what to do. Her Mother knew. Her father was told indirectly by her mother. Ya know; hints. He attempted suicide because of guilt. The guilt of not knowing what to do or who to believe. Did anyone know where this child’s body was? No. Not even Casey. She slipped back into that mode of who am I now. Could they come back with an insanity plea? I do not hear that. Does she miss her daughter? Yes. I know that sounds sick but if you are convinced you did not do it you would feel the same. Will justice be served? Good question. I really cannot answer that. God judges. I know Caylee is in a good place. That still doesn’t make any of this horror show go away.

I am sickened by the whole story. I could be right or wrong. I am not looking to be either; this is all just intuitive impressions. The sad part is this happens all the time all over the world. What can we do? Pray!

In my opinion, I am an open book. I trust easily and make friends fairly well. I customarily give people 2^nd and third chances while most would not let you past the first. This is just me. I may even know in my heart that my choice to keep things going will eventually end up in dust. Ya know the kind of dust that is icky and makes you sneeze, the kind that you can’t shake off. Here we roll – well, our thoughts begin to spiral. It’s me, not them. It’s them, not me. Why? What did I do or where did I go wrong?

Sometimes nothing and no one is to blame. People part for various reasons. No chemistry. (Love that one). You just cannot agree. So don’t. Agree to disagree. Often we just do not grow together but grow apart. Friendships go through phases, so do romantic relationships. All relationships do. Some do not survive. It can’t be helped. It still hurts. It hurts and confuses us. I could list twenty questions but I think you get the idea. Yes?

Now that I have done some boo- hooing, is that even a word? Here is my point-

No matter what hurts you, who does it or why, learn from that. Perseverating on it will only keep it stuck in the center of your chest and lodged in your brain. Grieve; feel rotten but certainly not forever.  I know this is easier said than done. Been there done that. EW!

What can you learn?

1. What works for you?
2. Someone was dishonest, do you want that?
3. Do you really have things in common?
4. Was that friendship going both ways or just your friend’s way? I personally need my friends to step up for me and they do. If someone is my friend and they consistently miss the boat with me, ignore my needs and we don’t have an even exchange of “friendship”, it’s not really friendship. Consistently missing the boat means they are just NEVER around. Friends can often lose touch but they always catch up. True friends do.
5. Boundaries.. That is a big one. Did you create boundaries?
6. Self Respect. We like to believe we have it, do we?

The lesson is to learn what we want, will and won’t accept. There is no need to tolerate people in our lives who do not create an even balance of love, friendship, kindness and consideration with us. If we feel we are unworthy of all that life has to offer, we will not be receptive to what it is that we are truly wanting. All of us generally want the same things. It is true that we must think better of ourselves in order to attract and associate ourselves with phenomenal people. Each one of us has been created to enjoy life, teach others, love each other and most importantly love ourselves first.

So, step by step put the past in the back seat. Live in the present and look forward to the future. Be hopeful, mindful and move ahead. Forgive yourself as well as others. Think highly of yourself. No one comes into this world knowing exactly what to do. Life teaches us through experiences. None the less, if we do not have marvelous thoughts of ourselves we most certainly will never meet others who will think any better of us. No one can define you but you.

“All that we are is the result of what we have thought.” (So True)

May you always be blessed on your journey.

With Heart,

Michelle

http://www.michellecaporale.com

Men have started to change and are starting to grasp the fact that their role may not be as it once was. “Starting” is the operative word because this does not mean that there aren’t vast amounts of the world where men insist on being the breadwinner and women should still remain at home barefoot and pregnant. That may a long time to change for those that hold that opinion. However in our western world that seems to be changing. If a couple gets together and agrees on that concept and role, then certainly that is acceptable as both parties agreed and are happy.

So what is a man seeking? (Remember this is from my questioning a group of about 30 men over the last several months or more)

• It may be shocker ladies to know that most men are looking for love and a solid relationship. The problem that I was told on several occasions was that many women come across as cold and often aloof. I was told by a client who I will call Jim that his girlfriend was too involved in herself that she did not wish to spend time with him. She professed her love but showed little attention unless she initiated it. Surprisingly he held on until he gave up. She did not cheat, she was just too self involved. He felt each of them should have down or alone time but wanted his time with her as a couple.

• Men are seeking a woman who is attractive to them. Women may despair that men can be so shallow and that looks could matter so much but be careful. Men aren’t necessarily looking for a Victoria’s Secret model and many men don’t like women who weigh 80lbs. But men do want a woman who takes pride in their appearance. The men I asked really enjoyed the women that took interest in themselves, it showed self esteem. Just like we want our mates to look and smell yummy, men feel the same. No, they don’t expect us to be dressed to kill every day. Men are proud of having a girlfriend who looks good and I would never believe any man who says otherwise.

• Men are looking for a trustworthy girl, someone they can have faith in and someone who will be there for them. Men want to make a home eventually and are looking for a woman who will be willing to share in a home life with him. Women with a sociable lifestyle are attractive because they can be relied upon to keep the social calendar going when it is needed.

• Men are seeking women who are feminine gentle and kind because deep down the qualities that make a woman a great mother are an attraction in itself. If a man wants children or has them already he will often look for that maternal side. Do not mistake this for “mothering” him. I was told by 75% of those I asked that was a no- no. It was perfectly fine to take care of your guy if he was sick or hurt but always remember your not his Mother, he has one.

• Men want women with a great sense of humor. Women who came across as uptight or too bothered by too many small details were a turn off. You will sometimes hear mention of a girl who is ‘one of the boys’. What this means is that she is able to fit in with their humor and is sociable and fun to be with. Women who just go with the flow in this aspect are attractive to many men. Men want to have a good time and relax when not working. Almost all, who I feel were truthful with me said they really loved the women who were able to do the same, just not turn into a cursing sailor.

• Men are looking for women who retain their femininity and are caring and kind. “Soft” was a word that was used. “If I wanted to hear a burp or fart, I would go to my buddy’s house.” It’s not as if we all don’t do those things but all men asked agreed that was not a turn on. FYI- Girls are not that thrilled when the guys do it either. Women have girlfriends and men have their buddies. You can combine the crowd but most have expressed to me that they really get turned on when their girl acts like a girl and girls like guys can be versatile.

• Men want someone who is supportive. Many women are quick to criticize men in their behavior, career and can become set about trying to alter them and mold them. This is a mistake. Men and women can be manipulated yes, but they see their partnerships as support systems. The best relationships work both ways in terms of support. Where a woman is not able or willing to give that support and is too quick to criticize then she may lose her man. I as a woman invite constructive criticism but not constant that is non- supportive. If you nag me, I will eventually grow annoyed which always leads to an argument.

• Men don’t like angry women who shout, scream or yell. Naturally, we all do at times but I think you know what I mean. They mostly wanted a woman who can debate, discuss and have good conversations. Communication is key and women want this too. A fiery passionate temperament may have made you interesting and challenging on day one. By the time a year has passed most of these men felt it became overwhelming. (That may be saved for the bedroom)

• Men love a challenging woman, someone who keeps them on their toes. These 30 or so men openly admitted that they were generally lazy in relationships once they feel they’re secure. When a man is challenged, he does something about it. If you want to keep your man interested, keep him challenged. This does not mean to play games. This is what I was told.

• Men are generally more reserved about sex than women. These men who were asked were really kind of cool and open enough to say that know what they like in bed and tend to stick to it. All had expressed that they did not like when their partners discussed their intimacy with friends or family. They felt rather betrayed when hearing their performance was up for 10 pts or less. A few mentioned that even if they were being complimented, they felt it was private information. They also felt that they really liked when their mate was quiet outside of the bedroom and knew how to act like a lady but as the song goes… when the lights turn down low, that was exciting to them. Most women feel the same.

• Men want a woman who will commit to them. Men don’t want to be alone. These men also expressed that they really enjoyed friendships first. Several had mentioned that upon not searching for a relationship at that time, the friendship meant so much it spun into a romantic relationship that was totally unexpected. Three particular gentlemen polled had spent many years being friends with their women friends who now are wives; she was right under his nose.

Naturally these findings will not apply to all people; there are exceptions to every situation. I found it all interesting yet not so surprising. Men can be loveable people and do have feelings even if at times some may find it hard to express.

            I hope you have enjoyed reading this as much as I have enjoyed sharing it with you.