How to handle the stress of the Holiday’s

We have unrealistic expectations for the holidays. Hollywood and songs have conjured up images of a traditional happy holiday dinner with our loved ones. However, because of all these fantasies I really feel the holidays don’t stand a chance!  We lose the meaning behind this season. When lowering our expectations we are able to see realistically. Whatever benefit arises, becomes a bonus. We stop comparing what once existed in the past, or what we once were, to what is in the here and now. All that matters is the moment.

With this in mind, de-stressing can be facilitated by writing a different holiday list: the things we appreciate and the things we used to appreciate. We would then change our perception: Is the cup half full or half empty?

Remember the traffic gets crazier. Ignore people. Road rage is crazy enough as it is. Keep your emotions in check. Breathe. The Holidays go one of two ways: People are either cheery and pleasant or miserable and moody. I prefer to be pleasant all year round. It gets crazy. Don’t get sucked into the madness. Get real about the season.

Take time each day to relax, give yourself peace. Maybe volunteering for Holiday events would help you get a better perspective. If you volunteered at a food kitchen it keeps things honest and real. (I do feel this we should all know this is an all year event that people need help).

Smile regardless of the rude, cranky people. Emotions can run high. We miss our loved ones. We wish we had a partner; things may not be so good financially, etc. Count your blessings. When you check into what other people are lacking it certainly helps us feel blessed.

Exercise. That relieves stress, helps build endorphins. Eat well. Try going organic. Veggies are good. This time of year there is always a box of chocolate or cookies hanging around. Try stepping away from the junk and maybe grabbing a pear. It will do your body good.

Keep things in check. Take one day at a time. Enjoy the season for the right reasons not the silly gifts or parties. Keeping things simple is one of the best ways to enjoy every day.

Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays and a very Happy New Year to all.

 Lots of Love.

Michelle

http://www.michellecaporale.com

 

While You Were Sleeping.

Anyone remember the Sandra Bullock movie “While you were sleeping”? Oldie but goodie. She saves the life of a man from getting hit by a train and manages to get involved with his family because of her heroic actions. But while this man is in a coma in the hospital everyone seems to think she is his fiance. From that point on the story goes forward and while he is “sleeping” her life begins. She doesn’t see all what is front of her because she is focused on the man she saved in the movie whom she always had a crush on but he never noticed her.

So, what happens to us when we are so intent and focused on someone who barely notices us or pulls away from us? Do we ever stop to see that perhaps there is someone else waiting in the wings or maybe even come to us at another time? Because we are so wrapped up with the present person we tend not to look what is in sight or even what the future may bring.
My Grandfather used to tell me; “You before him, you will survive after him”. Ah but the heartache. How that distorts the positive thoughts and the mere idea of looking to the future at the possibility of opening ourselves up again for more hurt or a good relationship. Which will it be? Who wants to go through that again? None of us.

Just like the movie, while we were sleeping, not hoping or perhaps not noticing things do have a way of working themselves out. We do recover in time,we do find new love that gives new hope to an old heart.
Try to only take small naps so you don’t miss the grand event. Want to know who and when? Just ask me. I look forward to reading for you.

Michelle

http://www.michellecaporale.com

For Kellie – In Loving Memory

Kellie was a beautiful German Shepherd who was nearly two years old. She was found at a shelter with her sister Joy. Heart-worm positive and full of fleas. Scars were left on her body as it was obvious that she was taught to fight. Joy was used for breeding. Not even two and Kellie was fighting while Joy was breeding making people money.

Who are these people, where are these people? I will never find them, never get to speak my peace or bring them to justice. The anger comes to a boil each time I think of the abuse. I see too much abuse in this world towards animals. It needs to stop!

Kellie’s aggressive behavior brought her to the point in which her owner felt he had to put her down after she could no longer be trusted with others. She was always on watch, ready to jump and would bite. I loved her, she was sweet to me and I trusted her with my life. If I could have made her know that she did not have to be afraid and life would be good for her that would have been my wish. She did not deserve her start nor her finish. It was all due to the abusive behavior of others.

I have struggled in my heart with the what if’s and why did he put her down without some kind of behavioral therapy first? Why didn’t anyone listen? Why didn’t the rescue that she was adopted from know of this, or did they? Too many things go through your mind when you are in pain and second guessing. I blame many people. I blame myself too. I played a small part in her life and loved her. I could see her aggression and I tried to help her. Now it’s over. No one would want to see a child mauled or anyone harmed. It still does not take away the pain or the injustice. One thing is for certain Kellie is no longer frightened, aggressive, angry or struggling with the demons of abusive people who had her first. She is in a peaceful home with others and her Creator. One day I will see her again.

She has left a scar on my heart that will always remain. I honor her this way by letting the world know a German Shepherd named Kellie existed. She is beautiful in spirit and body. She has a soul that is bright and loving. She was given a rotten start in which she did not deserve. She was playful, goofy and very snuggly. Kellie pranced when she walked quickly and liked to step up on you while licking your face. She loved toys and jerky treats. She liked the garbage pail too. She had a deep bark with her pointy ears up and meant business if anyone tried to harm those she loved. She is love. Whomever did not get to know her is unfortunate. They lost out. Whomever is making excuses for her behavior that doesn’t understand is an idiot. They lost out and me personally will honor, cherish and preserve her memory in more ways than one.

Kellie- I love you. Xo

For all those that do not respect life of any kind, your time will come.

For all those that do, God Bless you.

“Please do not shop, ADOPT”.

Comets, economic issues and intuition

Here I sit trying to avoid the news. It is so hard as we sit and wait to see what Congress will do. Get your asses out of debt! I am in some debt, yes. Mostly medical as I do not have all these credit cards.(No health insurance) Thanks, so fun! Open the state lines lets see who can provide good coverage for a fair price.

I managed my families bills for years and saved what I could. I paid and thank God have still been paying my mortgage. I will not go out to dinner or take fancy trips. I shop and recycle at Goodwill. I donate my efforts to special things like animals and sick children. I am not extravagant. I conserve energy and I care greatly about the environment and mankind. I do not make a lot of money but what I do make I am cautious with. So if I can manage this on very little why can’t Congress? I was never interested in politics, until now. I am horrible at math but I can use a calculator and when I do the numbers it can be fixed. It is my opinion that we have created a society of “brats”. No one seems to appreciate a home cooked meal, naturally grown food.  (No pesticides, there are other methods) Not many people know what a hard days work is. Breaking your ass won’t kill you. It makes you stronger and in touch with your planet. My Father broke his to support his family.

Stop bailing out big business. Stop sending jobs overseas. You therefore raise unemployment rates here. We have enough resources that we can use in the U.S. that we can have fair trade. We are so busy trying to hoard all the money that we lose sight of what is here. Stop the wars! Yup, I am a female and I do not want to see innocent people killed no matter what faith or color you are. It costs money to fund a war. Then again, I can go right back to greed. Where have our values gone? What the hell are we teaching our kids?

It’s nice to have nice things but easier and affordable to go back to the basics. What is really essential? Stop leaving God out of things, no matter what you label it as or whom. I feel you are up you know what without a paddle when you start diminishing  God and a faith-based system that practices LOVE, not hate and greed. Equality for all. No special ones. All are equal and go back to the basics. You can run a household, you can run a budget.

Next.. Lately my Intuition has been at an all time peak. I am feeling off, strange about our world. When things are ready to happen animals are so in tune they re-act. I have been watching the alignments with this so-called Comet Elenin and doing much research.  Probably too much. I am not certain as to what will happen. ( I will let you be the judge from your own research).

However, I intuitively feel something is off and a change is coming. Whatever that may be can we all collectively lift our vibration so that we can help our planet and one another? Positive thoughts, words, feelings, etc. I believe in doing that we lift the world to a much better place. There is too much hate, let’s make love instead. I want to hold my grandchildren, how about you?

Fear is not a good place to be, it also brings negativity. Let’s work together.

Thoughts?

With Love,

Michelle

Bringing about peace

Bringing about peace..

Every day whether I want to or not, I hear of an earth change or something horrible happening to someone or something. It seems as if people have lost their minds. Maybe true. It’s rather difficult to raise your vibration have faith and be positive when you hear of such things. It is undeniable we are living in very trying times. The State of the Union is upside down. I try to stay far away from any news. It always affects me. I don’t want to be oblivious or unprepared.

I knew of the earth changes coming years ago. Things and people are different since I was a child. Being a child was easy, those were the days.

Can we fix the budget? Can we stop the changes our planet is making? Can we save the earth, our children and animals? I believe our planet is going through some major changes in order to bring about a new world. It is scary, confusing and though predicted still unpredictable. However, if we raise our vibration and start making changes NOW we can all get through these times a lot easier.  The world needs healing. People need healing. There is too much hatred, abuse and violence. Nations should not be rising against each other.

The “yes” to fixing things comes to me as thoughts and actions.  Here are some things we as a world can do:

Forgive. Yes, forgive every person who did anything to you that was wrong. Let it go. (I know this is easier said than done) Try.

Plant something. We are killing off our trees and vegetation. It’s always a good thing to make oxygen and breathe.

Become a role model to a child or young adult.

Get involved. Volunteer even if it’s 15 minutes a week.

Truly practice random acts of kindness. (Stop perseverating on what you don’t have, think of what you do have) I may not have designer clothes or a home that is decorated with the finer things money can buy but I have clean clothes with a roof over my head. I am simple, not complex. I hope to always have this simple roof over my head and in faith, I will.

Smile at someone. They might think you’re nuts but who cares. Positive helps.

Donate a quarter to a local charity. Who cares how much, it all adds up. Imagine if everyone donated 1.00 to a food cause? We could possibly end world hunger.

Save an animal. If possible you can sponsor, adopt or donate time.

Replace a negative thought or feeling with a positive one. Keep on doing that.

Honor the earth, clean up litter. Bless the ground you walk on and the sky you breathe under. Recycle, please.

Pray! Pray for others, the earth, your family, friends and all you know and have never met. Prayer is not about religion. I care that you pray. I encourage you to walk in faith and not in fear. Fear will hoard all the faith anyone has. Living in fear is crippling. Fear is negative and evil. It can and often does control. I am sorry to say but I believe the powers that be like to instill fear so they can keep us under thumb. As long as you continue to remain attached by virtue of clinging, desire and ego – as long you continue to live in fear – you will see that change or its potential as a bad thing. As soon as you stop, it becomes just a thing – maybe even a no-thing.

Educate yourself. Don’t take the news as the word of God. Take the word of God as the news.

Share, laugh, hug and love. Love is such a powerful force. It can move mountains, change minds and hearts. Be open minded to new people and ideas. Imagine! Try to be in a consistent state of grace.

Granted, this is not so easy to always do. Not impossible. The world needs to be healed so do people. The only way is to start day by day then we can multiply. We raise our vibration high where the planet feels the loving energy. It flows through each one of us carried like a river that eventually will lead out to an entire ocean. That is pretty cool.

Tonight I felt a sense of fear and then I did some things I suggested above. I thought of my children and how I love them. How blessed I am because of them. I spoke to a friend; e mailed another because I deeply care for each of them. I worked, prayed and played with the dog. I looked at the moon and thanked God. I asked for world peace and all nations to learn love and those economic issues will be fixed, jobs will be had. I laughed at a silly show and wrote this blog.

Let peace reside in your heart and pass it on.

Imagine there’s no Heaven
It’s easy if you try
No hell below us
Above us only sky
Imagine all the people
Living for today

Imagine there’s no countries
It isn’t hard to do
Nothing to kill or die for
And no religion too
Imagine all the people
Living life in peace

You may say that I’m a dreamer
But I’m not the only one
I hope someday you’ll join us
And the world will be as one

Imagine no possessions
I wonder if you can
No need for greed or hunger
A brotherhood of man
Imagine all the people
Sharing all the world

You may say that I’m a dreamer
But I’m not the only one
I hope someday you’ll join us
And the world will live as one

-John Lennon

Words for Women to Live By

I usually don’t add these things but this was sent to me via e mail and I was hysterical. I hope to share my laugh with everyone.

Words for Women to Live By

  1. Aspire to be Barbie – the b**h has everything.

2. If the shoe fits – buy them in every color.

3. Take life with a pinch of salt… A wedge of lime, and a shot of tequila.

4. In need of a support  group? – Cocktail hour with the girls!

5. Go on the 30 day diet. (I’m on it and so far I’ve lost 15 days).

6. When life gets you down – just put on your big girl panties and deal with it.

7. Let your greatest fear be that there is no PMS and this is just your personality.

8. I know I’m in my own little world, but it’s ok. They know me here.

9. Lead me not into temptation, I can find it myself.

10. Don’t get your knickers in a knot; it solves nothing and makes you walk funny.

11. When life gives you lemons – buy some Coronas.

12. Forget about the perfect man – he’s living in San Fran with his boyfriend.

13. Keep your chin up, only the first 40 years of parenthood are the hardest.

14. If it has tires or testicles it’s gonna give you trouble.

15. By the time a women realizes her mother was right, she has a daughter who thinks she’s wrong.

‘Good friends are like stars… You don’t always see them, but you know  they are always there’
‘Remember yesterday, dream about tomorrow, but live for today’. Now smile and send to any girl wasting time at work, suffering from a hangover, or just suffering from life , they might need a reason to smile!

Attitude and Gratitude

I used to believe that if I was nice, honest and truly good hearted people would care about me because generally speaking I feel I am very warm and open to pretty much everyone. Most of my closest friends feel the same about their own lives.

To my surprise, this is not always the case. No one owes us and not everyone is nice. Just because the world is not always nice does not mean that we cannot be.

However, regardless of what people may do to hurt us I say we continue to live in a humble state of grace, gratitude, sharing with a happy attitude. It lifts the positive energy and you end up sharing L.O.V.E.

A few things to consider while acting in this fashion:

1) You never really know someone else’s cross. They may not even know they are hurting your feelings.

2) If they do know, shame is on them not you. Let them deal with it or not. If you were promised contact then not received it, maybe that person is not able. If they lied or broke a promise again, it is on them.

3) When giving and practicing random acts of kindness we are not supposed to be rewarded with “kudos”. I was always taught to not air my donations or throw up to someone what I may have done for them. I really try not to.

4) When you feel ignored, find something to do so you can feel better.

For the past several years of my personal life I have been feeling left aside due to the fact that in laws and even my own relatives don’t take the time to stop and call or ask how I am. Because they all know of most of my hardships, I feel alone, often resentful of them not doing something. I began to wonder what did I expect them to say or do. Are they even capable? Do they care? Why do I need to care so much? I examined myself carefully. Soul searching is a hard thing but can be rewarding. You’d be surprise what you find. Being a victim emotionally is not much fun. It serves no purpose.

Honestly, does it matter? I suppose my Grandfather would say that it should but life isn’t always so cut and dry. I stopped to think that they have their own set of issues. Maybe I should reach out to them more. See how you can flip this? I can call too! If they don’t respond so what. I don’t know all the issues that are going on with those people so who I am to judge?

Then there are some people that no matter how you try, forgive or reach out they ignore you. You may have even said you were sorry if you did something to upset them or anger them. Okay, what about that? If you are really sorry coming from a loving heartfelt place then that is all there is. Forgiveness is a rough one. To error is human, you know the rest.

We could but shouldn’t live our lives in constant drama and fear. We shouldn’t be judging this one, that one. I miss people, often tried to figure them out. I wondered what part I played, if any.  In the end I can start to see that it matters not. God deals with each of us accordingly. His grace and mercy are suffice. All I can do is expect nothing from no one, live in gratitude and keep a good attitude. I have to gain a better sense of faith.

Being a practicing Intuitive does not make me powerful or crazy. I am human. I have feelings. Maybe I am very emotional and some people cannot handle that. I cannot deal with people who show little to no emotion. I need contact and communication. I love being social. I love loving! I love and hurt deeply. I dislike drama. (I am terrific at creating it but I am choosing not to do that)

Goals: This week I am living in grace, gratitude and love. No matter who says or does what I will not change this course. I will practice every day to be GRATEFUL for all I have and do not have. Often when we don’t have something, it shows us what we DO have. (I challenge you to make some goals)

I will not gripe about the people who have hurt me intentionally or unintentionally. I will send them love because I do love them in spite of anything.

I will be happy and say thank you to the people who are in my life, who do show up and care. I love them as well.

I will take lessons from my dog that is new to my family. Most of you already know my two Shepherds passed away within a 5 week period because of old age. They had fabulous lives but when they passed my heart went with them. Unexpectedly I adopted/rescued this crazy, goofy smaller Shepherd who did not know what a treat was. She would cower to me for no reason, snapped at a family member for whatever her reasons were. She has had a rough start. A few months have gone by and she is playing, expecting treats, enjoying her cool home safe from all the rain. She is loving, sweet and starting to understand its okay. She has no expectations except that she is living in complete gratitude and joy. Her name is Joy. I re-named her for a reason. My other dogs were here since puppies and they never new anything but love. (Coral and Rizz I love and miss you)

Our animals don’t have these egos, they just are. They forgive and could care less who is who. I think I like that attitude. They are also so grateful for love, food, attention and life.

Some things to do to stay grateful: Donate to a local shelter. Even $1.00 matters

Visit a Hospital and spend 5 minutes with someone who is ill.

Watch children play at a playground

Witness a sunrise or sunset

Volunteer for one hour at your local Humane Society

Think of Our Military scattered around the world.

You don’t need money or material things to find grace and blessings.

Look at things with your heart. A close friend of mine once told another friend that if he listened and looked with his heart he would find the right girl. I hope someday he does. If we look with our hearts when can find the attitude of gratitude. Life is about little things. We start with just one thought and action we can then spin off from that. After a while it becomes a healthy mental lifestyle.

If we pray with an open channel, our prayers are sincere. They can make a difference.

I would love to hear back from anyone who has any great suggestions or what you may have tried.

In gratitude,

Michelle

Casey Anthony

I blogged about this almost three years ago and some of what I felt intuitively was correct or pretty close. Some was off. In truth, it sort of freaked me out. I have done missing person cases in NY, SC and Florida. I don’t like doing it but I will. I feel it is part of what I could give back to the world in helping someone find closure. I have children. They may be grown but they are mine, I adore them. I pray daily for mankind, I wish nothing but good for all. Seeing people suffer disturbs me. Now you know a bit more about me.

I cannot watch the case. The news rocks me but now and then in the course of the day it pops on the screen of the computer. Then the impressions flow and away I go.

There is a hung jury in the midst here, I hope I am wrong and very well may be. I feel it. The search dogs were not wrong. They have no ego. Her father was stern but not abusive. Her mother figured it out rather quickly and also feared something of this nature would happen. Neither of them could control their daughter even when trying. This woman has a multiple personality disorder. You cannot fix that. No magic pill or wand cures this. What Casey see’s is her innocence. She has no remorse because whatever is lurking inside of her does not know she did this. There had to have been licensed psychiatrists and physcologists see her because that is common sense. I have yet to hear of this and if it was mentioned, I missed it.

Some of what Casey thought could be considered pre-meditated, the rest would not be. There were thoughts that she would have liked to be free of her daughter and the responsibilities that came with parenting. Taking her life was not on the table. Then- I do feel she snapped. Upon snapping is when she decided that it was “okay”. She would send her off to a better home in heaven. Going out on the town was not her way of forgetting the act it simply was a party. “I am free.” Someone else is really taking care of my little girl, this she believed.

If you are hoping she will break and confess, don’t hold your breath. She won’t. Did she pass in the back yard? I believe so. Then it was panic time. Rid the house of the body and evidence. I do feel Casey came to her senses, snapped into realty trying to figure out what to do. Her Mother knew. Her father was told indirectly by her mother. Ya know; hints. He attempted suicide because of guilt. The guilt of not knowing what to do or who to believe. Did anyone know where this child’s body was? No. Not even Casey. She slipped back into that mode of who am I now. Could they come back with an insanity plea? I do not hear that. Does she miss her daughter? Yes. I know that sounds sick but if you are convinced you did not do it you would feel the same. Will justice be served? Good question. I really cannot answer that. God judges. I know Caylee is in a good place. That still doesn’t make any of this horror show go away.

I am sickened by the whole story. I could be right or wrong. I am not looking to be either; this is all just intuitive impressions. The sad part is this happens all the time all over the world. What can we do? Pray!

“All that we are is the result of what we have thought.” – (Buddhist saying)

After painful situations, I believe it is normal for us to re-evaluate ourselves. I am human too and have found myself letting others define who I am or how I should feel. This has never served me, never will and it will be of no service to you either. Trust me.

In my opinion, I am an open book. I trust easily and make friends fairly well. I customarily give people 2^nd and third chances while most would not let you past the first. This is just me. I may even know in my heart that my choice to keep things going will eventually end up in dust. Ya know the kind of dust that is icky and makes you sneeze, the kind that you can’t shake off. Here we roll – well, our thoughts begin to spiral. It’s me, not them. It’s them, not me. Why? What did I do or where did I go wrong?

Sometimes nothing and no one is to blame. People part for various reasons. No chemistry. (Love that one). You just cannot agree. So don’t. Agree to disagree. Often we just do not grow together but grow apart. Friendships go through phases, so do romantic relationships. All relationships do. Some do not survive. It can’t be helped. It still hurts. It hurts and confuses us. I could list twenty questions but I think you get the idea. Yes?

Now that I have done some boo- hooing, is that even a word? Here is my point-

No matter what hurts you, who does it or why, learn from that. Perseverating on it will only keep it stuck in the center of your chest and lodged in your brain. Grieve; feel rotten but certainly not forever.  I know this is easier said than done. Been there done that. EW!

What can you learn?

1. What works for you?
2. Someone was dishonest, do you want that?
3. Do you really have things in common?
4. Was that friendship going both ways or just your friend’s way? I personally need my friends to step up for me and they do. If someone is my friend and they consistently miss the boat with me, ignore my needs and we don’t have an even exchange of “friendship”, it’s not really friendship. Consistently missing the boat means they are just NEVER around. Friends can often lose touch but they always catch up. True friends do.
5. Boundaries.. That is a big one. Did you create boundaries?
6. Self Respect. We like to believe we have it, do we?

The lesson is to learn what we want, will and won’t accept. There is no need to tolerate people in our lives who do not create an even balance of love, friendship, kindness and consideration with us. If we feel we are unworthy of all that life has to offer, we will not be receptive to what it is that we are truly wanting. All of us generally want the same things. It is true that we must think better of ourselves in order to attract and associate ourselves with phenomenal people. Each one of us has been created to enjoy life, teach others, love each other and most importantly love ourselves first.

So, step by step put the past in the back seat. Live in the present and look forward to the future. Be hopeful, mindful and move ahead. Forgive yourself as well as others. Think highly of yourself. No one comes into this world knowing exactly what to do. Life teaches us through experiences. None the less, if we do not have marvelous thoughts of ourselves we most certainly will never meet others who will think any better of us. No one can define you but you.

“All that we are is the result of what we have thought.” (So True)

May you always be blessed on your journey.

With Heart,

Michelle

http://www.michellecaporale.com

What do men really want?

After taking a poll for several months I have decided to write this blog in regards to what my male clients and friends have expressed to me in what they are looking for in a partner. Interestingly enough it is not what you may automatically assume; “sex”. Women often say that men confuse them and that they are unsure what a man is really looking for. They have tried to please them in the past and it hasn’t worked. Modern men seem to be increasingly struggling to find his place in a woman’s world. I don’t mean that in regards to a profession. I mean it in regards to how men want to connect with a woman and form a bond. Men are not insensitive, rotten *bleep*, as some may say. There are good and bad in both sexes.

Men have started to change and are starting to grasp the fact that their role may not be as it once was. “Starting” is the operative word because this does not mean that there aren’t vast amounts of the world where men insist on being the breadwinner and women should still remain at home barefoot and pregnant. That may a long time to change for those that hold that opinion. However in our western world that seems to be changing. If a couple gets together and agrees on that concept and role, then certainly that is acceptable as both parties agreed and are happy.

So what is a man seeking? (Remember this is from my questioning a group of about 30 men over the last several months or more)

• It may be shocker ladies to know that most men are looking for love and a solid relationship. The problem that I was told on several occasions was that many women come across as cold and often aloof. I was told by a client who I will call Jim that his girlfriend was too involved in herself that she did not wish to spend time with him. She professed her love but showed little attention unless she initiated it. Surprisingly he held on until he gave up. She did not cheat, she was just too self involved. He felt each of them should have down or alone time but wanted his time with her as a couple.

• Men are seeking a woman who is attractive to them. Women may despair that men can be so shallow and that looks could matter so much but be careful. Men aren’t necessarily looking for a Victoria’s Secret model and many men don’t like women who weigh 80lbs. But men do want a woman who takes pride in their appearance. The men I asked really enjoyed the women that took interest in themselves, it showed self esteem. Just like we want our mates to look and smell yummy, men feel the same. No, they don’t expect us to be dressed to kill every day. Men are proud of having a girlfriend who looks good and I would never believe any man who says otherwise.

• Men are looking for a trustworthy girl, someone they can have faith in and someone who will be there for them. Men want to make a home eventually and are looking for a woman who will be willing to share in a home life with him. Women with a sociable lifestyle are attractive because they can be relied upon to keep the social calendar going when it is needed.

• Men are seeking women who are feminine gentle and kind because deep down the qualities that make a woman a great mother are an attraction in itself. If a man wants children or has them already he will often look for that maternal side. Do not mistake this for “mothering” him. I was told by 75% of those I asked that was a no- no. It was perfectly fine to take care of your guy if he was sick or hurt but always remember your not his Mother, he has one.

• Men want women with a great sense of humor. Women who came across as uptight or too bothered by too many small details were a turn off. You will sometimes hear mention of a girl who is ‘one of the boys’. What this means is that she is able to fit in with their humor and is sociable and fun to be with. Women who just go with the flow in this aspect are attractive to many men. Men want to have a good time and relax when not working. Almost all, who I feel were truthful with me said they really loved the women who were able to do the same, just not turn into a cursing sailor.

• Men are looking for women who retain their femininity and are caring and kind. “Soft” was a word that was used. “If I wanted to hear a burp or fart, I would go to my buddy’s house.” It’s not as if we all don’t do those things but all men asked agreed that was not a turn on. FYI- Girls are not that thrilled when the guys do it either. Women have girlfriends and men have their buddies. You can combine the crowd but most have expressed to me that they really get turned on when their girl acts like a girl and girls like guys can be versatile.

• Men want someone who is supportive. Many women are quick to criticize men in their behavior, career and can become set about trying to alter them and mold them. This is a mistake. Men and women can be manipulated yes, but they see their partnerships as support systems. The best relationships work both ways in terms of support. Where a woman is not able or willing to give that support and is too quick to criticize then she may lose her man. I as a woman invite constructive criticism but not constant that is non- supportive. If you nag me, I will eventually grow annoyed which always leads to an argument.

• Men don’t like angry women who shout, scream or yell. Naturally, we all do at times but I think you know what I mean. They mostly wanted a woman who can debate, discuss and have good conversations. Communication is key and women want this too. A fiery passionate temperament may have made you interesting and challenging on day one. By the time a year has passed most of these men felt it became overwhelming. (That may be saved for the bedroom)

• Men love a challenging woman, someone who keeps them on their toes. These 30 or so men openly admitted that they were generally lazy in relationships once they feel they’re secure. When a man is challenged, he does something about it. If you want to keep your man interested, keep him challenged. This does not mean to play games. This is what I was told.

• Men are generally more reserved about sex than women. These men who were asked were really kind of cool and open enough to say that know what they like in bed and tend to stick to it. All had expressed that they did not like when their partners discussed their intimacy with friends or family. They felt rather betrayed when hearing their performance was up for 10 pts or less. A few mentioned that even if they were being complimented, they felt it was private information. They also felt that they really liked when their mate was quiet outside of the bedroom and knew how to act like a lady but as the song goes… when the lights turn down low, that was exciting to them. Most women feel the same.

• Men want a woman who will commit to them. Men don’t want to be alone. These men also expressed that they really enjoyed friendships first. Several had mentioned that upon not searching for a relationship at that time, the friendship meant so much it spun into a romantic relationship that was totally unexpected. Three particular gentlemen polled had spent many years being friends with their women friends who now are wives; she was right under his nose.

Naturally these findings will not apply to all people; there are exceptions to every situation. I found it all interesting yet not so surprising. Men can be loveable people and do have feelings even if at times some may find it hard to express.

            I hope you have enjoyed reading this as much as I have enjoyed sharing it with you.

New Update on the Caylee Anthony Case

This is driving me nuts as I am certain many of you feel the same way. I am gonna post what I wrote recently again and some of which I added. I have e mailed two different Police Departments now. I am also enclosing the link where you can listen to the actual investigative interviews with Casey. She sounds very lucid which is really creepy to me. I will also say that  by her parents not willing to take a polygraph, in my opinion just does not look good. Below is my Intuitive impression and the link to hear the interviews.

What I hear Intuitively is that Casey did take her daughters life, I think we all would agree. I have heard the numbers 10 and 15 – These could be markers, roads or miles. I decided to look at the local map of Orlando tonight to see if I could get a better grip on this. 15 runs North from what I see into Deland. There is a 35 mile radius from Lake Monroe north in which I feel Caylee is buried. There are several lakes and wooded area’s. One that I feel a hit on is Crystal Lake, although I do not feel her body is in a lake, but rather a shallow wooded area very close by. The grave will have a heart symbol over it perhaps made out of sticks. I also see that Caylee is buried with a piece of gold plated jewelry that she is laid with.

 

That child is not past the De Leon Springs area. I hear the name Richard, Rick, Richie and I do feel this is a younger male that knew of the incident after Casey did this. He may very well be in Jacksonville, Florida. He found out after the fact and did help dispose of the body. He is no older than 29 years of age. He has dark hair that is either spiked or greasy looking with a piercing in his nose. The name Richard, Rick and or Richie could very well be an area or street too but it truly feels like a person. I am simply giving you all the information I am hearing. Please also know that I absolutely feel that her Mother (Grandmother), knows what happened after the fact to her grandchild. Caylee may have been struck but I hear suffocation. There are several black plastic bags that she is rolled in and most likely buried in. There is also a mauve colored cloth that seems to appear like a kitchen towel that was either in the trunk of the car or buried with Caylee, I do not know the significance of this.

Click here: Map of Orlando, FL by MapQuest

http://www.myfoxorlando.com/myfox/pages/Home/Detail;jsessionid=5C846DBA95669480183D1E615CC77D28?contentId=7418528&version=20&locale=EN-US&layoutCode=TSTY&pageId=1.1.1&sflg=1

Click on the link and scroll down to play the audio interviews there are seven of them.

Warmly,

Michelle

Are you spiritual?

Main Entry:  spirituality   +spir-i-chu-!wa-lu-tE

Pronunciation:   \ ˌspir-i-chə-ˈwa-lə-tē  \ 

Function:  noun

Inflected Form(s):   plural spir·i·tu·al·i·ties, 

Date:  15th century

Results

1.	1 something that in ecclesiastical law belongs to the church or to a cleric as such
2.	2 clergy
3.	3 sensitivity or attachment to religious values
4.	4 the quality or state of being spiritual It comes in various ways, words and actions. What’s your version of being spiritual? Is it do unto others as you would have them do unto you? Is it talking nastily behind everyone’s back while you step onto the ladder of success while pulling others down? Is it wishing peace and love to those you meet? Religion and Spirtuality are two different things. There is a difference. You can practice a religion and never be spiritual. I love those that claim their fame by being spiritual and then pull a line of shit to hurt others. They talk like no one’s business and act almighty but they are missing something; ” soul”.  Below you will see the correct defenition of websters “spirituality”. So let us proceed to being spiritual and what that pertains.

     I do indeed agree with things that are of a spiritual matter and also how the defenition points out affairs and attiudes. A spiritual individual such as Mother Theresa or Ghandi does no harm and has wished no harm. Yes, they are/were human but they try to rise above to be better people.
If you are planning on living a life that is set by example then you better start paying attention to your actions as well as thoughts. What you do does matter. No one is perfect. I am far from it. As I go, I grow and will continue on this journey. I choose LOVE as I am finding it to be very spiritual. I choose PEACE, FRIENDSHIP, FORGIVENESS and most of all GOD.
I am not here to judge but rather to learn and teach to the best of my abilities.
Those in glass houses should not throw stones and the tongue is mightier than the sword. Jesus does say do unto others what you would have them do unto you.
So we should NOT slander, Judge, hate, condemn. Why can’t we walk in peace with a beautiful spirit enjoying our spirtuality?

Living with Integrity

Living with Integrity

 

Hold your head up high no matter how low you feel. Hold on tightly to all that is good and truthful.

Believe with your heart that you can take one more step forward. (You really can)

Know that you were created to be “Brilliant”. There is no doubt that you are just that.

 

Leave the past behind. It can no longer be lived.

Look to the future with hope, there is always a gift someone will give.

Live in the present, it is just that; a present.

Live with integrity.

 

Walk your own path, do not listen to the sounds that speak negativity.

Know when you are still your Creator is standing with you.

Speak words of kindness no matter how unkind someone is to you.

It’s none of your business what someone else thinks of you.

It is however your business what you think of yourself. Love yourself.

You are so worthy.

Laugh! Laugh till your stomach hurts.

 

Live with integrity. It is a simple trick that keeps your sleep sound.

Know that there will always be better – God may close a door but He always opens a window.

(My best friend says God doesn’t like ugly) She is correct.

Be still and listen with your heart, it knows which direction to take you in.

(Remember to listen closely)

Take the high road. No one is worth your soul.

No one is worth your love if they cannot respect you.

Be who you are. Remember you are brilliant.

 

Respect yourself or no one else will. This teaches people how to treat you, so treat yourself well.

Forgive yourself, forgive others.

Live with integrity.

 

Truly, in the end it is always between you and your Creator, so as it is with all mankind.

 

May you be blessed.

 

Always,

Michelle

 

(Copyright Michelle Caporale 2009)

Is your Psychic, Psychic?

Is your Psychic, Psychic?

 

Everyone has “Intuitive” abilities, we are born with natural instinct. It’s common sense. Think of those who trade on the open market. These talented people have some sense of a feeling to sell or buy. Yes, the watch the market and stocks but they still go on instinct. More common than not if you truly have a conversation with most people they will tell you ” I just felt it, or knew it”. How? Natural intuition, Mother’s instinct? Yes.

 

Psychics are not God. God is all knowing. When you choose a profession such as my own, you are honest enough to say such things that are truthful. So here are some tips to help you choose the right Psychic.

It is unfortunate that some who practice this field are not honest. No profession holds perfection.

 

1. A Psychic should ask minimal questions. However, please note that most will want to ask a something along the lines like; ” What area would you like to focus on”. No one wants to be in a maze.

 

2. A true Intuitive will NEVER tell you they are 100% and no one knows it all.

 

3. A good over all reading will give you some time frames. Not necessarily a perfect date but a generalized month or year.

 

4. A well rounded reading will be as specific as that individual can get. (Pick an Intuitive that you will be listed as focusing on your needs) i.e.: I can zone in on love, career changes, someones feelings, outcomes and those that have passed over. I cannot tell you who your spirit guides are. That is not my forte’.

Understand my jest?

 

5. Give room to understand that you are the one who can change a reading in a matter of 5 seconds.

I read for a woman who became a friend later on and when I met her she was not planning on moving nor did I see this in her reading. Low and behold she went and moved on a whim. She did everything opposite of what I suggested, saw and heard. It back fired for her. Was I right, yes. Was she, yes. Did she change it all, yup.

 

6. You may scratch your head at number 5 but honestly it is your fate in your hands. I have been told before NOT to do something and guess what, I did it and it did backfire.

 

7. An honest Intuitive will always guide you and give you plan A, B, C and what each will hold. Ask what you need too. Be open.

 

8. Trust your own instincts. Don’t be foolish and hit up every Psychic so you can confuse yourself. I have been there myself.

 

9. A reading is meant to guide, forewarn and assist you on the best path possible so you can make better choices. What you do with it is certainly your business.

 

10. Do some research. The Internet is good and bad BUT you can see what other people say about someone else. Some people get upset and leave negative remarks because it is not what they wanted to hear. Still, does this Intuitive qualify in any area that will meet your needs? Be a smart consumer.

 

11. A good Intuitive should always have great bed side manners just like a good Doctor. Kindness is a must.

No one needs to ever be harsh.

 

12. In the end YOU can change your reading. Remember that as I have done this too.

 

 

 

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How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world.  ~Anne Frank

Attracting a Healthy Relationship

We all want it, we all desire the goodness that a relationship can offer.

However, I pose this question; ” Do you want healthy relationship or just a relationship”?

 

It has been said that first several months maybe even the first year of a relationship is someone who represents us filling in for the real us. We all try to start off on the right foot, don’t we? We all have a sense to possibly hold back our true selves in fear of the what if’s. What if this person see’s the real me and they are not interested?

 

The right way to think would be; ” I am me, like me as I am”. That is easier said then done. True colors always come shinning through eventually.

 

Healthy relationships are built on time, trust, experiences and more. A healthy relationship starts with one self. Yes, we have to love ourselves, be good to ourselves before we can even think of allowing someone else in. If you are good to yourself love and respect who you are, you are  more likely to attract someone of the same caliber. In most cases like attracts like.

 

It has taken me a long time to like myself. It was not as easy as I make it sound, not simple at all. I found fault with most things about me that when I look back I see it was rather silly. Now, because I like myself, mostly respect who I am, I seem to attract nicer people, better friends and so on. I am not tolerant of other people who are rude or try to change me.

For all this and more I am better because of the experiences and now I know what I will accept and most of all what I WILL not allow in my life.

 

Here are some tips to have a healthy relationship:

 

Build a foundation of appreciation and respect. Focus on all the considerate things your partner says and does. Happy couples make a point of noticing even small opportunities to say “thank you” to their partner, rather than focusing on mistakes their partner has made. Gratitude brings a great attitude.

 

 Explore each other’s interests so that you have a long list of things to enjoy together. Try new things together to expand mutual interests. Be curtious to your partner.

 

 Establish a pattern of apologizing if you make a mistake or hurt your partner’s feelings. Saying “I’m sorry” may be hard in the moment, but it goes a long way towards healing a rift in a relationship. Your partner will trust you more if he or she knows that you will take responsibility for your words and actions. Most of us do not wish to be responsible, it is easier to place blame instead of accepting your part and moving forward.

 

Make choices together. Things like financial choices can strain a couple. It is important to choose the same things together by being on the same page. Money can part even the best of friends. Be considerate.

 

Don’t hold back. If something is bothering you, talk it over. Perhaps you may have to set a time to do so. Non the less speak. Speak with respect. Every couple argues but if you are going to fight, do it fairly and by all means stay on the subject in which you are fighting about. Arguing is healthy, abusive behavior is not. I have learned that sometimes even though we apologize we cannot take it back, it’s already out.

 

Be friends. The best of friends make the best of lovers. Why rush it? Friendship is so valuable, it helps build trust. You would want your partner to be your friend.

 

Allow space. Everyone needs it. I don’t like feeling crowded or smothered myself. I have polled friends on this one and some others. Allow your partner time with friends as you need time with your own or to yourselves. It is healthy & perfectly acceptable.

 

When you are in a healthy loving relationship with yourself you will find that you are more open to receiving one from another. 

 

Wishing you all healthy, loving relationships of every kind.

Refer a Friend – Get a “FREE” Read!

It is good to be on the site running the promotion! It feels nice to offer some extra help when those of you have been so supportive and trusting me to guide you.

In honor of that I am running a special which should be lasting until …? I have no date. When you order a reading from me on my site http://www.michellecaporale.com and refer a friend who orders a read, you will receive a 15 minute FREE phone read. Please make sure when your friends e mail me they tell me who referred them so I know who to give the credit to.

I am back on click4advisor. You can find me again, through the web site. When I am available you will be able to reach me on spot. So, know that I am on.

Things have been great – The radio was a lot of fun as always but I am no longer doing my Monday night shows. I am devoting more time to my clients as well as myself. Schedules can be demanding as you all well know. Eventually I will most likely do a light day show in the future when it is time.

I hope everyone is keeping safe and warm. The weather is certainly crazy.

Any questions about the “Refer a friend program”, please write me.

Lots of Love & Happy Valentine’s Day.

( I will be posting a blog about that very soon)

Michelle

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How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world.  ~Anne Frank

The God- Psychic Relationship

Each one of us has a specific belief system that we have applied because of our up bringing or then changed it as we matured. I am a practicing Catholic. I do believe in God, I have faith that has literally kept me going when things were looking impossible. I do believe that ALL things are possible with God. (Okay Michelle, so what is your point?)

Unfortunately, I have come across many people over the years who do not make the connection between my profession and God. They find what I do of a “satanic nature” or have no clue as to where the “gift” of being a Medium would come from.  As a good friend just said; “If all things are possible with God and you believe this, why wouldn’t it be possible to believe that being psychic or intuitive would not come from God”? In my opinion she is correct. I realize the church does not acknowledge this. With all due respect, I disagree. It is not to serve as my advantage, I just know there are several gifts of the spirit and believe all things are possible with God. I do not use my religion as a crutch. I take the good I have learned from it and apply it to my life. ie; “Do unto others as you would have them do as to you”.  Religion and faith are two different things. I apply my faith when life is grand and lean on my faith when things get rough.

Let’s get real now, we can justify anything as long as we believe it. I don’t feel the need. I don’t try to analyize where the gift comes from, I just know. When you go to bed at night you know the sun is going to be shinning in the morning, yes? (Unless it is raining – you still know the sun is there) It is the same with my relationship with God. I know He gave me this gift to inspire, enlighten, teach and console others. I am absolutely sure that it is God who hands out many gifts as I believe each one of us are born with talents to share, not abuse.

It is my opinion that when Noah decided to build the Arc, he heard God speaking to him telling him of the impending doom. Noah listened and we know the rest of the story. Thank you Noah for paying attention.

We are all intuitive. Not all of us use this gift as a career to assist others in the form of divination. However, I can guarantee you that the guy on wall street goes by the numbers to buy or sell and often enough he will have a “feeling” on whether to do one or the other.  Have you ever just met someone and felt a good or bad feeling from them? You can’t put your finger on it but you know something is wrong. That is intuition. It is given to all of us. I do know this gift of being intuitive comes from God, for this gift I am most grateful.

It matters not what faith you are, color or creed – God is the same to all. We just call Him by different names. We are all connected to the same life force that created us.

In closing I wish you peace, love, joy, good health, prosperity and faith.

All my love,

Michelle

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I am not bound to win, but I am bound to be true. I am not bound to succeed, but I am bound to live up to what light I have.
- Abraham Lincoln

How To Maintain A Healthy Level of Insanity (LOL)

Could not resist this was too funny to not share To Maintain A Healthy Level Of Insanity

1. At Lunch Time, Sit in Your Parked Car with Sunglasses on and point a Hair Dryer at Passing Cars. See If They Slow Down.

2. Page Yourself Over The Intercom. Don’t Disguise Your Voice!

3. Every Time Someone Asks You to Do Something, ask If They Want Fries with that.

4. Put Decaf In The Coffee Maker For 3 Weeks. Once everyone has gotten over Their Caffeine Addictions, Switch to Espresso.

5. In the Memo Field of All Your Checks, Write; “For my mental health fund”.

6. Skip down the hall Rather Than Walk and see how many looks you get.

7. Order a Diet Water whenever you go out to eat, with a serious face.

8. Specify That Your Drive-through Order Is ‘To Go’.

9. Sing Along At The Opera.

10. Five Days In Advance, Tell Your Friends You Can’t Attend Their Party Because You have a headache.

11. When The Money Comes Out The ATM, Scream ‘I Won! I Won!’

12. When Leaving the Zoo, Start Running towards the Parking lot, yelling ‘Run for Your Lives! They’re Loose!’

13. Tell Your Children Over Dinner, ‘Due To The Economy, We Are Going To Have To Let One Of You Go.’  (Let me know if you try any of these. LOL)

It really is about the little things in life that matter.

Within each of us there is a human need to feel special, wanted and appreciated.

When we chose to enter into any kind of relationship there are requirements that we seek.

Basically it comes down to the heart of the matter which is; “validation”.

“Hello, here I am, validate me and appreciate me”.

It has been proven that children will thrive under circumstances when they are loved, appreciated and validated. Why then when we enter adult relationships, romantic or not do we forget these things? I suppose it is the ho-hum day to day living that we forget to honor our partners, family, etc.

Appreciation and acknowledgement is a general basic need. Even our beautiful pets need that. So it is the same with people.

I had a lovely conversation with a friend this evening in regards to this subject. What we are all looking for is the “little things”.  It is never the sparkly gifts or the lovely smelling flowers that really count, instead it is the words that can be said here and there that matter. Oddly enough we all seem to fall short of saying simple things to those we love that mean so much. The flowers will wilt but that piece of note pad that says thank you or I love you will stay with you forever. The phone call that comes in when someone cares about how you are doing will be remembered verse’s the one that never came. More than likely you will remember who didn’t call to ask how you were and maybe even hold that against them.

Women want to be made to feel beautiful and respected. Head’s up, so do men. They want to be made to feel handsome, respected, admired and so on. It’s not the sex that will hold you together. It’s the conversation and not taking each other for granted. Making love is a sacred thing but it’s not always physical. It can be a simple smile or a warm touch, maybe even a sparkle from your eyes to his or vice versa. It can even be a simple; “Hey, you did a great job on the lawn today. I know you work hard all day then come home and do the yard, I appreciate all your efforts”.  Get it?

Discuss your disagreements as well as what you agree on. Ask how others are doing.

Make it a point to hand out a “thank you”. Smile and don’t give the half fake smile either. (I hate those)

Drop a line, send a card. Reach out to a friend. Clap loud and proudly for your children.

Remember it takes two, not one. Play your role and take your responsibility. Love and yes, laugh. Most of all appreciate the people that you care for.

It really is all about the little things.

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Re-Creating Your Life

Is it a job or a new location or even perhaps a better or new relationship that you seek? Maybe even something different you want to try or do. Most of us get settled in our routines, stuck in the rut so to say. It is hard or maybe even uncomfortable to try to change our lives or even to re-create ourselves. But really what is worse; staying in the same old routine or trying something different? If we stay in the same routine, relationship, job, what have you, I promise you nothing will ever change.

Change is scary but can also be exciting. It is a matter of writing a list as to what you want to create or re-create. Do not overhwelm yourself, take one thing at a time. My goal was to start taking dance lessons. I have two left feet and feel funny dancing in front of family. So, I decided to start looking locally for dance studios and see who is willing to teach me how to elegantly glide across a dance floor and not trip myself or others. I promise to update everyone as I go. In seeking something new that I always wanted to try it certainly gave me a lot of food for thought. I could meet new friends, learn to dance and the best of all; have fun!  This may sound silly to some but if you have ever seen the Seinfeld episode where Elaine dances as others stare horrified you will now understand what I mean. Also, why not?

Here are some tips on how to Re-Create your life or maybe add a little spark. Enjoy!

Make it a point to read a good book. Books are great in the fact that they take us out of our environment to far away places. We can also use it as a discussion topic if we so feel.

Paint a room. Paint has a great effect on the feel of our dwelling. Colors can make us feel sad or upbeat.

Take a walk daily. It’s always good to excercise and fresh air never hurt anyone. If you even do it for 5 minutes you are doing something POSITIVE for you.

Call an old or new friend just to catch up. Funny how time goes by and we lose track.

Start writing down little thoughts that may pop in your head about what direction you may wish to go in. Don’t worry if it sounds silly, it’s for you and no one else.

If you are unhappy in your current relationship try to mediate a specific time where you and your partner can converse calmly about what each of you can do to help make it better.  If you are in a situation where there is no happy ending in sight and you have tried all you can do think about how you would benefit from being apart or ending things amicably. I realize that is easier said than done but I will tell you that living in a relationship that is always making you unhappy will make you feel ill. I will discuss that in another blog. I do understand these things.

Volunteer your time! Got an hour? Take a small amount of time to volunteer your time. It is helpful, needed, can be fun and it makes you feel really good. Animal shelters, hospice, places of worship, whatever strikes your fancy. In volunteering I learned how good it felt. I met nice people and it also gave me other ideas of how I wanted to re-create my life.

Spice up your resume’. So you want a new job? I know it can be challenging these days but go ahead and correct anything on your resume’ that may need a white out session. Get creative and then start e mailing, faxing and sending away to any place your care to work for. Keep pushing ahead with this. It will come.

Try positive affirmations daily. Even if you try just one everyday you will begin to believe it after a while. Start with this: “Today is going to be a wonderful day, all I will be doing is smiling because no matter what I am happy & blessed”.  Maybe it may sound a tad bit lame but try it or chose your own.

These are just a few things that I wanted to share with all of you. It is such a pleasure to be able to reach so many people. I also want to thank everyone for the wonderful e mails that I have been getting. I am blessed too.  I will be blogging more so stay tuned. Have a great day!

Always,

Michelle

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Unemotionally Available People.

Relationships are supposed to be easy, not taxing.  50 years ago people viewed relationships as being married and having children. Men and women had a specific place in the household. It’s 2010. Most women are independent; most people are raising children in a single family home. Dating can be a royal pain in the butt.  My friends tell me it’s taxing, uncomfortable and often exhausting. My female friends gripe about the men they meet come and go, they have no depth. My male friends tell me the girls want to jump right into a serious relationship by the 3^rd date. They want marriage. (I would really like to ask those girls if they have lost their marbles.) No one would ever let me loose to speak my mind. My friends know I am outspoken.  For the record, I am working on that.  LOL

These questions come up often in readings.  It’s really simple to answer yet somewhat complicated. Ya know the two fold answer? From a woman’s point of view here are a few things I can share:

You attract what you put out. If you want a normal, healthy person, then take no prisoners.

 People who are telling you they want to be in your life but then disappear or give a thousand excuses are full of you know what. Unless they have documented memory loss or they have a profession that takes them to faraway places, they are simply pulling your leg. Maybe they pulled a few other things and decided to walk afterwards. Unless they have major emergencies and I mean serious things that are not funny, they are just unemotionally available.  

If you want to date and be with someone who wants a committed relationship sometime down the line then you have to be ready to weed out the unemotionally available ones. Give it a whirl. Do not expect someone to be around immediately. Be honest with your expectations. Remember that other people have jobs, family and friends. They should have a decent job and a social life with a good circle of friends. THAT IS NORMAL.  Don’t be pushy; give them the benefit of the doubt. However, if after a fair amount of time the excuses keep rolling in week after week, month after month, then you may want to re-consider what kind of person you are involved with.

Emotionally available people call, they even speak when on the phone. They make plans and more often than not, keep those plans. They show an ongoing interest in you, they pay attention. You don’t always get what you give in this world but you can draw boundaries. The problem is will you stick with them?

People who really want to be in your life will make damn certain they are part of your life. They will care, they will show up. There is no way to get around this. Most situations are not extenuating.  

On a side note do the world a favor – if you find you are not that interested in someone or have lost interest, then tell them. Be honest so you don’t drag that person around. You wouldn’t want it done to you.

Now in regards to some of my friends of the opposite sex- Ladies, please tell me how you can expect marriage from someone after a few dates?  You could not possibly know that person well enough to want to spend your life with them. Marriage is no joke, it is a serious commitment. There are so many marriages that fail these days. I myself do believe in marriage and long term commitments. I would much rather wait it out, enjoy and get to know someone then jump.  You always want to look before you leap. Think of a swimming pool. Someone tells you that the end of the pool has a section that is 8 feet deep. You haven’t seen the pool but you love to dive and swim. Without looking to make sure the water was deep enough, would you just obliviously dive in? Imagine if you did and it was only 3 feet deep? Oops! UGH.. This would be painful, ya think?  Imagine if you did get married or moved in with someone you hardly know and it fell to pieces? Oops again? My friend has an expression; “It is easier to day I do than I don’t”. That is so true.

Don’t sell yourself short.

Wishing you emotionally and physically stimulating experiences that make you smile from ear to ear!

Michelle

http://www.michellecaporale.com

Certified, Licensed Intuitive Practitioner

How can I make someone change?

Most people have a general view that if they behave a certain way someone else will change the way they behave. They will love and respect us; they will return and realize we were the best things that ever happened to them. Golly gee, they may even propose, stop seeing others, speak to us with kindness.

Maybe just maybe if we are nice, giving, available, forgiving and always ready for them they will see that we indeed have value and love us. They will change their behavior that has hurt us.  We look in the mirror and think; “why does he or she do such cruel things to me”? BECAUSE YOU ALLOW THIS!

You may not even realize what your behavior is showing others. How you love and respect yourself will teach others how to treat you. Generally speaking, most people do not change, they are who they are. Sometimes they are sweet as sugar in the beginning but then you become introduced to whom they really are. If you respect yourself you only allow so much nonsense and abuse in your life. If you keep allowing whomever to keep using you for whatever reasons, you tell them in a subconscious way that they can do whatever they want whenever they want because they know you will always be available.

I never enjoyed being used and emotionally dragged through the mud. After a while I began to think if I made certain changes in myself or even tried to change my personality to better suite the other person’s needs, they would see what a great person I was. I am a fantastic person, I should not have to change who I am at the core. Yes, we all have to make improvements so we can grow. The core of who I am is a good, decent person who is a loving mother, daughter and friend. I love what I do for a living; I am blessed to be able to practice being a Psychic. I enjoy helping other people. I am crazy about my kids.  I adore my animals who adopted me. I love rescuing animals.

I used to allow everyone to take advantage of my nature because I felt they would like or love me better.  That never works. I promise this. Just like I cannot change who I am and my basic principles, no one else can change theirs.

You do not stay in any relationship so you can prove something and anticipate someone else will change to accommodate your desires or needs. It is painful when people disappoint us and believe me when I say that I have been very taken back and hurt to the very depth of my existence. I would pray for a miracle. My miracle was that God knew better and as the song goes; “sometimes I thank God for unanswered prayers”…. You know the rest. (Garth Brooks) Great song!  When you’re in the middle of the mess you cannot see the forest from the trees. You can only feel the loss. You may try to negotiate ways to get that person to be who they once were or become a better person.

Try this; you become the better person that chooses to become enlightened and evolve. Start loving who you are and you change your life. When you do this as time goes by you start to look back in hindsight and see what you missed. What you missed was aggravation, stagnation, more pain, the list goes on. These things take time. I know it’s painful. I have walked this path. Nothing will get better until we choose to make it so. If you need to seek the counsel of a licensed therapist, go for it. Whatever gets you through.  The only person you can ever change is yourself.

“Just because he doesn’t answer, don’t mean He don’t care. One of God’s greatest gifts is unanswered prayers”.

A toast to a happier, healthier life!

Hugs,

Michelle